Are you getting to a certain age, and starting to feel the pressure to ‘settle down and have kids’? Do you know that you want a childfree future, but don’t know how to share that with your friends and family? Or are you unsure about which path is right for you?
In A Childfree Happily Ever After, entrepreneur, fur-parent and childfree advocate Tanya Williams dives deep into the reasons why women choose to have, or not to have, children, including the social, cultural and biological factors that influence our decisions.
Just some of the topics this book covers include:
• How young girls are raised to become mothers
• The social and cultural pressures facing women when it comes to motherhood
• The myth of the ticking biological clock
• What the blokes think (yes, it takes two to tango!)
• How to find your own path to fulfilment
A Childfree Happy Ever After brings the childfree conversation to life, lifts the veil on how childfree women are treated in society, and shares true stories of women from all walks of life.
If you are childfree or unsure if you want to have children, this book will help you to respond to the judgement, find your voice and make a decision that’s right for you.
The book is divided into two parts:
1. How did we get here
2. How to make the right choice for you
How we are raised to become mothers
Educating future wives and mothers
Motherhood in the media
Bribery to breed
The subtle pressure of expectations
The relationship between motherhood and identity
Tick tock goes the biological clock (or does it?)
Let’s not forget the blokes!
Making the right choice for you
The many roads to fulfilment
Live in a regret-free zone
" This is a serious “can’t-put-it-down” read. I finished the book cover-to-cover in two sittings. Tanya writes with such openness and authenticity. She presents her own views with such raw emotion, and complements them beautifully with well-researched and thought-provoking insights. As a woman who is also childfree by choice, I can relate to many of the experiences Tanya shared. I also found it incredibly insightful to read into some history and studies into the topic of people choosing to be child-free. Tanya shares illuminating facts and discerning anecdotes on how society has arrived at a place where so many women are judged or criticised for their decision to remain childfree. What she presents is a brilliantly balanced view on how the conversation should be directed in a more supportive way for women, regardless of their choice in relation to having children. I will certainly be making sure that the young girls who are important to me in my life have their eyes opened by reading this book as they enter their teenage and twenty-something years. As Tanya herself says, it’s all about the big ‘C’ – Choice. And how we should all respect each other’s." Nikki
" In this time of standing up and speaking out, of having the right to choose and to embrace our differences, this book stands out as a strong, independent, passionate voice. I found this very personal journey to be thought provoking and, at times, confronting. As a woman with children and a grandchild the question of underlying prejudice comes to the fore. I was amazed by the level of bigotry and intolerance described in what I hoped would be a more compassionate society. I applaud Tanya for her strength in speaking out and her desire to ignite a conversation both powerful and controversial" Cathryn
"Unapologetic. Insightful. Empowering. I absolutely loved reading this book - super easy to read and super insightful. In the Trump era where women's right to choose is constantly jeopardised, Tanya's book is a breath of fresh air. It provides a much needed perspective on womanhood and what it means to be childfree. Tanya is unapologetic, insightful in terms of her analysis of social and cultural norms, and totally empowering - a must read!" Aastha
"Tanya’s written about a subject almost still taboo across most of the developed world and totally taboo in parts of the rest of the world. We should not be breeding machines - if we don’t want to be. We should not suffer any sort of subjugation, and the pressure to breed or worse, being forced to breed, is a form of subjugation.
Don’t want to take drugs, drink alcohol, eat meat, get married, learn to swim - whatever........to breed, or not, should be a free and personal choice and no one else’s but the person with the uterus and the ovaries. Well done Tanya! Loved it. Well researched, well written and relevant." Liz
"This is an excellent resource for those either tossing up whether or not to have children, or who have already chosen not to, and need a dose of ‘I made the right decision for me’ medicine. I am a mother of three now adult children, but applaud those for whom the parenthood path is not one they would choose for themselves and are brave enough to stare down those who assume happiness comes from motherhood. This is also the sort of book you can read from start to finish, or pick up and put down, reading parts that are pertinent or that resonate" Meggsie
"As a woman who has chosen not to have children, it’s always been an awkward topic of conversation (especially since my hubby and I got married – the first question is always, ‘so when are you planning to have kids?’). I just assumed that’s the way it was – I’d made an unusual choice and would be defending it for the next decade or so.
Then I read A Childfree Happily Ever After, and I was surprised by how widespread this phenomenon was. It had always been in the back of my mind – an ‘that’s just the way it is’ thing – but this book encouraged me to think critically about the social and cultural forces that are creating this mindset, along with unveiling the phenomenon that being childfree is a more common choice than at any other time in history! For a thought-provoking yet entertaining read (loved Tanya’s sense of humour!), I strongly recommend this book." Jacqui
"I bought the book tonight and already up to page 80 - i love it. Its a BRILLIANT book especially when it comes to breaking down the barriers of choice. Especially for us based on our cultural and religion expectations, and how it might be "imprisoning" who we really want to be - from a "woman's duty" and having children perspective. Tanya discusses this and refers to the Quran too at one point (as well as other religious books) so its a greatly researched book" Asti
Such a great book Tanya. I love the part that read "Whatever the choices of circumstances of childlessness, the only way to live a meaningful & happy life is to live an authentic life by choosing what is right for you, not living by the measure of what family, society, media or the church believes is the 'right' choice. And the only way one who can make that authentic choice is you" Childfree Travellers
"Tanya has written an amazing book that I've had the privilege of reading over the last week. I think that everyone should read this. I am a very happy (if at times a little weary) mother and two and wouldn't have it any other way, though reading this book was paradigm shifting. I am so happy to know it will be there for my daughter to read when she has to make her life choices. This book has the power to change lives" Belinda
"A big thank you so much. It's really nice to see other women like yourself strive in the childless world and speak out about it. Not enough of us do" Caitlin
"I love that! We haven’t decided what we are doing yet but (27 years now) but think this would be a great resource. Thank you!!" Amy
"Good on you for writing this book. Women are so often viewed purely as baby-making machines and constantly judged on the choices around having them. And their ability to or not. Well done, I can't wait to read it!" Hannah
"Man I wish I'd read your book before becoming a mum. I'm really not suited to the position. I pull it off grandly but omfg I could walk out and never come back half the time. I'm just not very maternal.....I'm not sure how I'm going to survive motherhood. I don't judge your choices at all"
"I love this idea! I don't have children and yet, for some reason, my life still seems to revolve around children" Karen
"What a great book concept! Love it! Elizabeth
"I absolutely LOVE this and would love to join the FB group when it's created. I'm in the "never wants children" boat, so can certainly relate to that" Sophie
"I don't care how much judgment I get I never ever want children. I'm 27 and cop it from quite a few family members and it's so annoying they won't accept my choice. I would love to read this!! Amelia
Tanya Williams is the effervescent, high energy, driven, sparkly Chief of Everything at Digital Conversations.
By day she wears many fabulous hats – tradigital strategist, outsourced digital manager, digital coach, blogger, digital trainer and speaker.
By night she is an author and childfree advocate who is passionate about mentoring and helping women learn how to find their inner princess, make their own rules, and make sure they never let anyone dull their sparkle.
Giving back and making a positive impact on people’s lives is very important to her. She is a passionate believer that women should make their own rules in life. No one has the right to force you to do what you don’t want to do or to pass judgement on the choices you make.
She wants to be a champion for childfree women and her personal mantra is: Never let anyone dull your sparkle. (Oh, yes, and she loves pink.)